Wednesday, July 29, 2009

How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

My 6 yr. old has waist-length curly (or kinky, whatever you prefer) hair. She is tender-headed and doesn't like to get her hair combed, although I cornrow it often. Her friends at school have perms, but our family choses to be chemical free. She understands that we don't believe in perms, but she constantly asks if she can have straight hair and hairstyles like the big girls on TV. I have flat ironed it a few times before, but it takes so much work (lots of tears, too!) and I don't want her to get caught up in that image. My husband and I try to surround her with positive images to appreciate (dreads, afros...), but "Hollywood" has always worked against us. I am afraid that if I put too much on it as far as saying no, that she will run even faster towards those other images that are not of her African American heritage. I have explained to her that when she is an adult it will be her choice as to how she wears her hair. What do I do?



PS- She understands that real beauty lies within.



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

just be calm with her and just find the time to play with her and when u do just do crazy things to her hair soo itll make her love her hair thats what my mom did to me



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

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How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

i do not have a child but i could suggest you look a picture online wit someone who had a terrible hair due in a bueaty salon and show it to her and then just tell that is why you must love what god (if you believe in a god) gave you to make you ... you.



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

Just let your daughter know that it doesn't matter what every one else is doing to their hair just look in the mirror and than god that she does have long pretty hair their are alot of girls out that that would love to have long pretty hair like that...



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

you guys can both sing a song while your brushing your hair.



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

Show her pictures or maybe videos of women with beautiful natural free flowing hair. maybe using some different or unusual hair ornaments once in a while.Do you give as a reason to disallow perms the health hazards of the chemical solutions or other reasons?I agree that if you place too much emphasis on it it will make her want it more. For now if she understands and respects your philosophy even a little bit, be glad!Good luck!



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

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go to beauty and fitness, go to hair care. everysooften they sell the maxiglide flatiron. it steams the hair straight. i hve been trying to save money up to purchase it so i can stop borrowing my friends. it is a lot better for the hair than a Hot comb. the hair isnt scorched just infused with moisture, less breakage.



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

If you have truly taught her that what is most important is to "groom her inner-beauty" than you will have also taught her that "outer beauty" is secondary. Then, it stands to reason that it isn't really THAT important that she maintain a standard of beauty that you and your husband have deemed appealing.



Is hair what makes African American heritage special? I certainly doubt that is the only way she can show her pride in her ancestry.



She is an individual (regardless of age). You say your family has made the choice to be chemical free....isn't your daughter part of the family? If she is requesting hairstyles that require chemicals, then she didn't make the choice...you have. You must choose your battles wisely when dealing with children...is she being teased for her or is it just a physical discomfort? Either way, I would want my child to be comfortable and confident. At six she has very little control over her life, it's the little things...choosing her outfits, her hairstyles, what she eats for lunch, that will develop her independence and self-esteem.



Wouldn't you rather assert your ideas on the big things...sex before marriage, drugs, alcohol? (Hopefully, you have many years before you have to assert these.)



Best of Luck ...



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

well. she is a little young to be straigtening it all the time. i'd let her do it for 'special ocasions.' i bet by the time she is older she'll be happy with her hair cause it'll make her different. there are always girls with straight hair who want it curly.



How do you teach a child to love her natural hair?

i wish i could help. I have a daughter about to be born in two weeks and i am wondering the same thing. I am not necessarily against chemicals complete but i do think 6 is to young. My wife and i are trying to figure out how to approach this same situation when we get to the place



PS we have bought come children books to help



Happy to be Nappy



I love my hair

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